Dr Tim


A Question:
I’m a little confused about the whole nice guy thing. From your article the only scenario you present (and gave reasons why it didn’t work) was where the nice guy buys stuff for the girl. What if he doesn’t? What if he is just generally nice but doesn’t use money as a means to procuring a girl’s affection?
- D


D you are absolutely right, I only gave one suggestion. However there is a fundamental flaw with the way your question was worded. “What if he is just generally nice?”  What do you mean by nice? What I mean by nice is weak and submissive. I hope this type of nice is not the way you act around women. If that is the case you need to do the following things.
  • Start teasing women about something they normally only get compliments on.
  • Act comfortably around them like you have known them for years.
  • Pretend that she is chasing you and take the piss accordingly.
  • Another thing that is very important is making a woman STAY interested. We all want what we can’t have so why not apply that theory to your interactions with the opposite sex. If you are pursuing a girl don’t bombard them with invitations to meet up, it’s too much, too boring and it will not work out well.

What does constantly calling or texting say about you? It says you have a boring life, one she will not want to be a part of. It says that the most interesting thing about your life right now is her and unless she is a complete narcissist that is going to make her run away.

However, if you give a little then simply lean back then only good things can happen. If you are texting then be funny but brief. Always have things going on; if you have an interesting life you are going to be an interesting person. By being only semi-interested it will make the attractive girl who is used to being constantly hounded by loser guys become a lot more interested in you.

That last paragraph was almost life advice, which isn’t really surprising. If you have an interesting and exciting life then you are going to be more successful, the key is to not fall into the “nice guy” trap which is very easy to do.

A comment:
Kia ora Doctor!
I heard a great line a day after reading issue no. 3 about nice guys; I thought you might like to hear it. “Nice guys don’t finish last, nice guys finish in the shower”.


Well said, I hope that’s not from personal experience though?

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